How we’re making peace with our no bells and whistles wedding in the WIC pressure cooker
Planning a budget-friendly, streamlined wedding that doesn’t feature all the “bells and whistles” of traditional weddings is not without its judgments and that’s where my recent stress has been coming in. Wedding planning forums can make you question if your wedding is going to be remembered as the “worst wedding ever,” your ideas suck, and it’s all going to be tacky, especially if you are cutting some corners, budget-wise. Here’s how we’re handling the pressure.
How important is it for people to say yours was the BEST WEDDING EVER?
Y’all know I loves me some data, and this little nugget from Splendid Insights is a hot nugget — turns out that generally speaking, almost 70% of us think having the BEST WEDDING EVER matters. Maybe it’s not the top priority, but it still matters.
What does this say about us?
It’s not just about the bride: The Wedding Industry puts pressure on bridesmaids too!
Somehow the lines of friendship and being a bridesmaid have been blurred by the wedding industry. “Requiring” bridesmaids to throw over-the-top bachelorette parties, or instructing brides that all of their bridesmaids must have matching monogramed robes as gifts, are ways to get people to open their checkbooks just a little more. Wedding websites, magazines and Pinterest are filled with lists and suggestions that can make one feel like, if they aren’t throwing a lavish bridal shower, they aren’t doing it right.
My name isn’t “Mrs”: On changing my mind about changing my last name
Changing my mind about changing my last name was undoubtedly really confusing for my husband, because I had clearly stated my intention to take his name once we were married. But when people started calling me “Mrs. HisLastName” I didn’t like it!