How I made a d20 engagement ring for my secret lesbian D&D proposal
I proposed to my girlfriend after a session of Dungeons and Dragons, with an engagement ring that held not a diamond, but a twenty-sided die. When I hit on the d20 ring, I knew it would be perfect for her… Plus, cheesy as it sounds, I do feel like I rolled a natural 20 when I started dating her.
Because I’m a woman in a relationship with another woman, there are no traditions on who proposes to whom. My girlfriend tends to think of herself as the guy of the relationship, but I’m not all that into traditional gender roles, so I decided to propose anyways. But how?
Learning to say goodbye to a happy singlehood
When the girl of my dreams accepted my proposal, I thought that was the happy ending to my single-hood. Bam! You’re engaged, it’s what you wanted and worked for, proceed to have a bridal glow till you walk down the aisle! Right? Wrong. I felt like there must be something wrong with me. I wasn’t as happy as I should be.
Lying in bed one night, sleepless and guilty, I started googling “Cold Feet.” Among the fairly unhelpful articles, there was one titled, “Mourning my single self.” Upon reading it, I had such a moment of epiphany that I was surprised the choir of angels didn’t wake my fiance up.
My Nigerian engagement ceremony bridentity crisis
I’m generally of the belief that your wedding is not always about you, but it should reflect you: your beliefs, your values, and your community. But how could I feel good about a ceremony where I didn’t feel like myself and nothing else felt like me either? In the end, it was really been a two-step process…
Will you be my companion?: The perfect ring box for a Whovian proposal
Ssssh — if you listen closely you can hear the collective jealous outcries from fellow Whovians when I show you Tribesmaid Anthropolywog’s amazing Tardis ring box. Oh, and should I even drop the “matching TARDIS-blue engagement ring” bomb?
I’ll let Anthropolywog explain the most adorkable proposal you’ll hear about today…