Transitioning our relationship into a marriage with pre-marital counseling
When my fiancée and I got engaged one of the first things we agreed on was that we wanted to go to pre-marital therapy. I finally made our first counseling appointment for next week. Somehow, this step makes the engagement feel more real than almost anything else in the planning process.
My fiance is more traditional than me
While wedding planning is lots of fun, it can also be stressful, especially when the each partner has different ideas of what the wedding should look like. While I try very hard not to subscribe to the Wedding Industrial Complex‘s idea of “everything is about me, me, me.” Sometimes it’s hard to compromise. Sometimes I get pouty and selfish, maybe even demanding, and in those moments, I am not loving my fiancé.
Renegotiating your marriage with a yearly “relationship summit”
Over on Offbeat Home is where we talk about all the post-wedding-y goodness: marriage, honeymoons, relationships, etc. Last week Homie Cassandra told us about her and her husband’s awesome “relationship summits” that they hold every year on their anniversary…
So I canceled my wedding…
I was nearly there, you know. I’d bought a second hand dress and Irregular Choice shoes. I had booked my venue and I was organising my independent honeymoon to India. I had invited just eight people to my little ceremony. I had made 500 paper cranes for my Senbazuru decoration. I had chosen music and a menu and started to stockpile little bits and pieces for my small but no less special day. And then my relationship ceased to make sense. It was a very hard, very sad time. And I really remember feeling very alone when it all happens — plenty of people talk about divorce, about second marriages, about boyfriend breakups… I couldn’t find other people who had cancelled their wedding. So, without further ado, here is my guide to canceling your offbeat wedding. These are just some of the things I wish I’d heard last year.