This couple had a cocktail wedding reception at a coworking space

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Offbeat partners: Maya & Willie

Date and location: ModernWell Coworking Space in Minneapolis, MN — 05/29/2022

Our cocktail wedding reception at a glance:

We had a cocktail reception that started at 7 with the idea that the ceremony would start whenever felt right (which was around 8). In keeping with a cocktail reception, we served hor d'oeuvres and the ceremony ended with a champagne toast. The actual theme was “light”, inspired by the Common song, “The Light.” We picked a venue with huge windows for great natural light. We had fun lighting for when the sun went down. I even spread candles around the venue. We also gave away candles as wedding favors.

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Tell us about the cocktail wedding ceremony:

We hid in a back room at 10 min to 8. I forgot my bouquet. We had no wedding party to lead us out, so when the music changed to John Legend's “Conversations in the Dark,” that's when we knew to start walking. We have 5 year old fraternal twins, so our daughter, Teia, walked Willie down the aisle first. Then our son, Theo, walked me down the aisle a few seconds later. Then they stood next to their grandmother.

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My sister performed the ceremony. It was very special since it could be so personal. My brother handled the music, made sure everyone had champagne for the toast, and held onto the freshly “warmed” rings until we were ready for them.

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Here's what my sister said when she officiated:

Alyssa: So at weddings I know it's customary to quote people who are really wise and know about love and can guide you on your journey. So I interviewed two of the wisest people I know, Theo and Teia. And you know, really wise people don't tell you exactly what they know, you have to extrapolate and read between the lines so I did some reading between the lines. When I asked Teia what love means to her, she said “love means because my mom and dad give me hugs.” So I take that to mean, you guys should never stop giving each other hugs, kisses, having those intimate moments that are so important in a relationship. Theo's took EXTRA extrapolating. So when I asked Theo how he felt about his parent's getting married he said “Uhhh…playing with my toys.” And then I asked him what he was most excited about for the wedding and he said “Playing snowball fight!” So clearly the deeper meaning in that is to find joy in everything that you guys do together. Keep having date nights. Keep spending time together keep having fun together. And finding joy in those big and small moments as a couple and as a family. So with that sound advice, we can go into your vows.

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Our vows:


Willie:

So I thought about this a lot and I wanted to make sure whatever I was promising, was vowing to do, resonated. Was real. You know cause lots of people have very lofty intentions in marriage. But sometimes it needs to be grounded in something real and tangible. And we've had the last 5 years to build that. So I promise, to watch the same show with you, no matter how many times we watched it. 88, maybe 100. Because I love you, I love seeing you smile. I love being there to hear your stories, and see the expression on your face. Every time I spend with you is perfect. I promise to stay up late, really late. Sometimes 2 in the morning and listen to you. And how your day went. The stories may be long but I love every one of them because I still like to know how you're doing. I want to know you're doing well. And I want to make sure you're getting any of the love and support I can give you. For the challenging times and the great times and anything in between. I promise to challenge you sometimes. And be open to being challenged. Because thats how we grow as people and grow in our relationship. I promise to try even when its hard, or annoying, or even when I'm not that good at it. Show that And show that I actually care. And I'm willing to spend time and invest in our relationship. I promise to make you laugh or just make you look at me weird. I promise to try no matter what to bring joy to your life. And I promise to let you pursue your dreams and aspirations. Because I love you for being you, what makes you unique. And most of all, I promise to do all that with love. No matter how challenging it gets. No matter how hard the times are, I'll make sure to do everything with love and let you shine in our relationship.

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Maya:

Most people would not consider me to be a romantic person, I think you would be included among those people. But I actually do have a sense of romance. I don't consider it the big gestures to be romantic. I consider it to be the everyday things. Some of the things you do for me like opening the door for me almost everyday when I get home so I don't have to find my keys in my purse. And never eating all the leftovers so there is always something for me to eat. It might not be other people's idea of romance, but I'm lucky to be able to live my favorite rom-com everyday. The things I want to promise you is not going to me everyday will be a good day. But what I will promise you is that I will do the work with you. That I will put our family first and that I will make both our family and our relationship a priority in my life. And I promise to love you.

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Alyssa: Kyle do you have the rings…They're nice and warm. As we all know, rings have no end, which symbolizes the bond between you will never end. As you place these rings, I want you to recognize them as a physical symbol of the vows you spoke today and the bond you have…Then we'll move on to jumping the broom. Jumping the broom symbolizes the sweeping away of the single life. As their community and support system, I want us all to count to 3 and then they'll jump the broom. 1,2,3!

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Tell us about the cocktail wedding reception:

The entire event was only four hours with the ceremony taking up about 20 minutes. I didn't plan for or want a lot of activities. But we did have a few things. I really liked the idea of a ring warming, but I wanted a short ceremony so I didn't want to do it during the ceremony. So there was a station for that near the guest book for people to casually come by and warm the rings at their leisure before the ceremony started.

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We had a photo booth and a little area for people to write date night ideas on popsicle sticks and put them in a jar. There was an area for dancing, but no first dance or anything like that. There was cake to eat but no cake cutting. We also served alcoholic and nonalcoholic beverages. The attire wasn't casual, but the party definitely was! I did have some stuff for the kids to do as well. There were some gift bags with candy and fidgets. There were also coloring books, toy rings, and glow sticks our “light” theme.

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What was the most important lesson you learned from your wedding?

The biggest planning challenge was finding a dress. I thought I had a dress a couple times and then didn't. So find a dress early.

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But actually, my most important piece of advice would be to not let anyone else pressure you into the wedding they want. Be assertive enough to have the wedding YOU want. I got a lot of questions about why I would have the wedding the way I did. People were especially thrown by the choice to be out mingling with the guests until the ceremony started, the blue dress, the lack of dinner, and lack of “special” dances. I got a lot of passive aggressive comments and “hints” to change it.

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Ultimately, my wedding turned out fabulous. I knew exactly what I wanted, I wasn't being trendy or edgy. I just planned the wedding that best represented us and where we would feel comfortable, happy and loved. It was beautiful, pretty much exactly how I pictured it, and I don't regret a thing. Plus, my guests had fun. I didn't need a cookie cutter wedding to be happy, and you don't either! I want this post to be the empowerment you need to have the wedding you want, not the wedding your family or society wants you to have.

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