The wedding officiant at our witchy Halloween handfasting was one of our close mutual friends. The Halloween handfasting ceremony script he read from was composed of our personal wants, Pagan influence, and research on nontraditional vows from other offbeat weddings.
We had a fall wedding with an outdoor ceremony in Finland. The guests were asked to participate in form of a potluck wedding – I provided the recipes and a friend helped by organizing who brought what.
The question of how to tailor our ceremony to be “authentically us” yet not alienate some of the very Christian guests and family was definitely a point of discussion when we were planning our Pagan wedding ceremony.
My partner is atheist, and I am an Atheistic Pagan, so we do not have a concept of a religious soul. Finding a wedding reading that feels right has been challenging, but we settled on a reading is from Victor Hugo’s book, Les Misérables. The soul mentioned in this passage–to us–is human energy. Love is the greatest of those energies.
We’d love to stumble upon this queer burlesque hand fasting ceremony in the woods. See what this burlesque performer and cannabis medical consultant describe as a “queer, witchy hoe, burlesque” hand fasting with a non-possessive ceremony script.
There were no bridesmaids, no flower girl, no Maid of Honor, no Best Man. There was no after-party, no toasts, no speeches. And you know what? It was fucking great.