Narcissism, self-promotion, and your wedding
Thanks to Offbeat Bride Cay for sending me this recent BBC article, which asks the question “Has an atmosphere of narcissism and self-promotion worked its way into the idea of the modern wedding celebration?”
Why I worry when people say they want a “unique” wedding (let’s talk about authenticity vs. attention)
“We’re thinking of having all our parents walk us down the aisle together,” you say to a friend, and then watch for a smile or a twitch of the eyelid. Did that smile mean they like it? Or did it mean they’re just being nice? Shit, I can’t tell! Now I think I’m going to have an anxiety vomit all over the floor!
Is having an offbeat wedding any different than having a traditional wedding?
That’s the question that Jezebel.com asked this weekend, and I figure maybe I should give my answer.
Why didn’t you feature my wedding?
Sometimes we get emails from brides who’ve submitted their weddings, asking us what was wrong with their wedding that we didn’t feature it. So maybe it’s time to explain how we pick the weddings we feature…
Offbeat-er than thou
I belong to a community of brides on another site. One of the brides prides herself on her uniqueness and originality. No one has a problem with that. But she really puts down a lot of the other brides who are more traditional. She calls their weddings ‘cookie cutter’ — which really hurts some people’s feelings! How can I tell someone to chill with their “I’m so original and different” superiority trip?
Your wedding is not a contest
The dirty flip-side of “my wedding is too weird” is “my wedding isn’t weird enough.” Both sentiments make me sad because your wedding is not a contest.