An ode to a cookie cutter wedding: why a “wedding factory” works for me
I can’t lie; part of me has struggled with the fact that I am not completely being a build-it-yourself “budget bride” like I had anticipated I would be. I’m letting myself splurge on a little luxury — the luxury of not having to fret about every little detail and allowing people who know what they’re doing take the reins. Even though there will be plenty of opportunities for personal creativity in the ceremony, garb, décor, and atmosphere… I still feel a little bit like a sell-out. Like I’m having a cookie cutter wedding.
My barn wedding is not a unique and special snowflake… and that’s okay!
I fancy myself an individual. I mean, I reckon we all do. And while no one has been shaped by the same life events I have, the concept of truly being “unique” is one that we rest a lot of importance on. I always figured I wouldn’t have a “typical” wedding. I’m a modest, geeky, tomboy of a girl, and I felt a good guideline for planning a wedding would be incorporating things that make me happy. I didn’t know jack about weddings when I started out planning for all this. But if I’ve learned anything, it’s that the things that make me happy also make other people happy.
Not every wedding choice has to “mean something”
I see this attitude a lot, about weddings, where everything is “supposed to mean something.” Before we got engaged, I had this grand notion that every little choice that we made about our wedding was going to be somehow representative of us. Now I can’t imagine doing that without going crazy from the stress.
When your culture is counter-culture: Lovingly explaining your more traditional wedding choices
Offbeat Bride has some wonderful, “Thank you for your interest but I’ve already decided” conflict resolution posts that apply to pretty much anything. But here are some specific scenarios if you, like me, find yourself a little bit too onbeat for others’ likings.