So you know that a prenup is important, but you’re worried you don’t have the time or budget to squeeze it into your wedding checklist? Here’s the online prenuptial agreement platform that’s changing the game. No lawyers and no leaving the house!
Learning to prioritize your own needs: Relationship advice from a divorced & remarried Offbeat Bride
Let’s talk about laundry, that Sisyphean task that we all tend to have differing opinions about. (What makes a proper load? How do you fold? Is ironing required? Does anything really have to be hand washed?)
You and your person don’t agree about laundry, but what do you do?
My wedding day countdown app on my phone informs me that there are exactly 30 days, 2 hours, and 22 minutes until my wedding. I feel like I should be more stressed out and nervous. But we’ve been engaged for one and a half years, and I’ve spent some time planning this thing every week, so the vast majority of the work is done.
What’s interesting is that after all that time dreaming and planning, though I’m really excited about the wedding itself, I’m incredibly excited for the time beyond the wedding…
You might not notice it now, because our culture appears besotted with the search for The One and having that Big Fat Dream Wedding, but marriage doesn’t have the greatest reputation. Wives are even more unpopular. I read every blog going about being a feminist bride but I didn’t come across anything about being a feminist wife, and as a result I was thoroughly unprepared for the post-wedding sexism I was about to encounter. If you’re about to get married, it might pay to be prepared for some of the bizarre encounters you are probably going to have with friends, family and colleagues in the days and weeks after the wedding. So here’s the scoop…
We were married three months and already talking about divorce, seriously?! There were times when I just wanted to give up and walk away, broken. I felt like I was failing this imaginary test.
It seems as though there’s a weird phenomenon that happens to some of us after marriage. We act out, and hurt the one we love most because we don’t know what else to do. It happened to me, my friend, and I know it’s happening to many other people out there. That’s why I wanted to write this. I wanted to let you know, if you are going through a rough patch after your wedding, you’re not alone. The pressure of this “idyllic marriage,” that’s what happened.
With the benefit of a year of hindsight, I thought I might give some advice to my younger self. Or, failing that — why do we not have time-travel yet?! — I figured I could give some advice to those of you who are still deep in the trenches of planning. The number 18 has great significance in Judaism, so without further ado, here is part two of the 18 things I wish I could tell my wedding-planning self…