Why we had a very, very gay wedding (not “just a wedding”)
One of the arguments we hear a lot is that weddings aren’t “gay” or “straight,” they’re just weddings. Of course, that’s true… but our wedding was also very, very gay, and that was one of our favorite things about it!
In the fight for marriage equality, there’s a risk that the thing that makes queer lives different will get lost in the shuffle. We wanted to celebrate the gayness of gay weddings and the importance of our broad family-of-choice to our lives. We ended up writing the following passage and printing it in our wedding program:
Dean & Matt’s classy “gaymer’s crash a gastropub” wedding
Retro video game photo booth props, a Mario cake, Plants Vs. Zombies cupcakes, and a chic gastropub in New York City… it’s a GAYmer wedding gone sophisticated! After a big snafu just getting to the venue, it was smooth sailing for the rest of the night (even if a TON of tears were shed). Get your achievement by clicking on this wedding and finding all the adorable gamer details.
Geoff and Michael’s globally-focused but intimate San Francisco wedding
For their intimate wedding, Geoff and Michael wanted to bring together their families — one side hailing from New Zealand, the other from Toronto. The two opted to get hitched in San Francisco, a kind of halfway point for everyone. These two met in London, and have traveled around the world. It was important to them that they include their shared love for all things global in the wedding, …wait until you see how they integrated photos from all their travels!
Scott & Wes’ intimate seaside Malibu luncheon wedding
This tiny, sweet wedding with two grooms, seaside decor, and a helluva biggest challenge turned biggest win has serious cute factor. Come for the awesome officiant story and tear-y ceremony, and stay to read all the little love captions in their Flickr photos!
A succulent-themed lavender and blue beachside wedding that’ll warm you right up
These two met three years ago online, and quickly discovered a “mutual love for good food, cocktails, and laughs.” Right before Thanksgiving 2011 they decided they were tired of waiting for America to get it together and they wanted to get married now. Luckily they live in Massachusetts, and were able to legally wed before heading to Aruba to celebrate with friends and family.
We already had a big wedding, now how do we celebrate getting legalled?
So here’s the thing: my wife and I had our wedding already, as we never knew when, if ever, Prop 8 would be repealed. Thankfully it did! We can now legally get married. How can we have a “part two,” without it being as big as the first and having everyone ask so many questions? Any ideas on how to pull that off? Is anyone else in the same position as we are in now?