Nikki & Duncan’s Urban Primitive Backyard Wedding
The Offbeat Bride: Nikki, OBT member “nikki fizer” Her Offbeat Partner: Duncan, Musican Location & date of wedding: mother jungle of a patio in Harrisburg, PA — 7-7-2009 What made our wedding offbeat: Our wedding was very small (13 people). The groom wore a steampunk getup with a krazy Aztec/Myan dreadlock hairstyle with dot tattoos […]
Difference between Ms and Mrs: Am I a Mrs if I don’t change my last name?
I decided long ago that I’d keep my name if I got married. But … what IS my name? I’ve often used the “Ms.” title, and I expect to keep doing so. “Mrs.” can, however, be useful. I always assumed I’d use Mrs. MyName at those times, but during this last week I’ve realized that in my mind the Mrs. title is inextricably linked with the husband’s name. Mrs. doesn’t just signal that I’m married, it tells people the name of the person I’m married to. Mrs. MyName feels self-contradictory and weird, like I’m married to myself.
Maybe I just have a problem with the title “Mrs.” Do people use it when they keep their name?
Unexpected groomsmen gift ideas
I’ve gotten a few questions lately from brides seeking the perfect offbeat groomsmen’s gifts. I’ve resisted weighing in because no two dudes are the same — and I really don’t dig the gender-normative trends in groomsmen gifts. It seems like it’s assumed that groomsmen are interested in booze (flasks!), titties (pin-up cufflinks!), tools, and sports. […]
Becky & Andy’s DIY Vermont Winter Wedding
The Offbeat Bride: Becky, Counseling Teacher Her Offbeat Partner: Andy, Math Grad Student Location & date of wedding: St Joseph’s Co-Cathedral and Sunset Ballroom, Burlington, VT — 01/03/09 What made our wedding offbeat: To save money, we got married during the “off-season,” which was sweet because we wanted to show our family and friends a […]