The 9 ways I’m making our vow renewal better than our not-so-great wedding
Our wedding planning began well, it did not continue that way. Our 2009 wedding was endured rather than enjoyed by our guests and ourselves. Blame is useless. I cannot undo what has been done. But I knew there was a way to create new, happy, memories… my husband and I could have a vow renewal! This time I want to enjoy the planning. I want to look forward to the day. I want our family and friends to enjoy the event. So in the five years since our wedding, I’ve reflected on how I can make the vow renewal planning a much better experience than wedding planning was. Here are my top nine realizations…
Who the hell cares: important lessons from partners who aren’t as interested in wedding planning
One detail that’s been plaguing me ever since I bought my dress has been figuring out what I’m going to do with the length. So I go back and forth, back and forth, on this decision. The past six weeks or so, I was gung-ho about getting it shortened. Then, one night, I was telling my partner about how I was once again reconsidering. While I listed out the pros and cons of leaving my dress full-length, I could see his eyes begin to glaze over. “Mm-hmm,” he said as I talked, stifling a yawn. Which was when I realized: Who the hell cares?
Stress rehearsal: Why I’m saying goodbye to the wedding photo checklist
I have a problem putting too much emphasis on details, and I have a tendency to be too detail-oriented. Through all this, my fiancé is like, “Why are you making simple things so complicated?” He also said at one point, “Why are you trying to cram in so many things into our wedding pictures, when you can just let things happen naturally?” Then I remembered a previous co-worker’s wedding advice: “The wedding day goes by so fast. Enjoy each moment.” So, remembering that, I said to my photographer, “no more photo must-haves.”
How my dead cat helped me propose to my boyfriend
When Eric and I started dating I told him I didn’t think much of marriage and I didn’t know if I wanted to have kids. I felt like marriage ends in divorce about half the time, and kids infringe on your freedom. Why willingly subject yourself to that stuff? But seeing how much he was there for me during one of the harder times of my life made me trust him so completely. I began to think if he has this much patience and concern for a cat that isn’t even his responsibility to take care of, imagine how dedicated and loving he will be to our family.