How to ask for cash instead of wedding gifts in the year of our lord 2025
The past couple years have turned a lot of wedding traditions and wedding registry etiquette upside down — and here at Offbeat Wed, we’re here for it! If you’ve got questions about how to do a cash registry in 2023, we’ve got answers. Because while a lot has changed, you still want to be polite and respectful…
How do we clearly communicate that we want NO wedding gifts?
When it comes to gift-giving, the general consensus among my peers is that you give what you can, if you wish. As far as we’re concerned, your presence is present enough — especially considering that we are a bunch of broke Millennials.
My extended family, however, hardcore-believes in tangible gifts. Some of them are sticklers for the traditional (and comfortably middle-class) notion of extensive and expensive gifts at shower, hen party, and wedding. It’s generous, but also uncomfortable, at odds with our values, and not always string-free. How can I discourage gifts at my wedding?
Registry poems are a thing in the UK and Australia and they’re kind of genius
Registry etiquette is ALWAYS a touchy subject. But one discussion we want to introduce to the recently engaged is the concept of registry poems, popularized in countries like the UK and Australia.
Registries aren’t as common there, but accepting cash gifts is, often requested in the form of registry poems (or wishing well poems). For Americans (and others) who may not know, these are literally fun little poems asking for money contributions to help with the wedding or honeymoon or just starting out their lives together.
7 modern wedding guest etiquette questions (+ bonus advice for couples!)
A couple months ago, I was interviewed for an article on Refinery29 about modern wedding guest etiquette. While the article used several of my quotes, I figured I’d share my ALL my answers for seven wedding guest etiquette issues, because who knows! Maybe you’re trying to figure out how to decline being a bridesmaid, or whether you should dress less weird at someone’s wedding.
Plus, I’ve got two bonus etiquette issues for engaged couples at the end. Advice for all!