OPEN THREAD: I’m getting body shamed by anti-body shamers
I am getting married this year and, while I love my curves, I want to feel comfortable in my strapless dress — having never showed that much skin in my life. So I made the personal choice to join a gym and eat better. Now I now find myself the recipient of passive aggressive comments from self-proclaimed anti-shamers. I don’t feel like I’m getting support for my choices from the people I need it the most: my fellow curvy brides. How do I express to them that I feel like they are actually shaming me?
Open thread: how do you deal with wedding body-shaming?
I just got engaged, and I went on my first dress shopping outing with my sister and my mom last weekend. I was hoping it would be a fun bonding experience, but instead I felt criticized and harassed by both of them. I’m a plus-size bride, and both of them kept making comments about how dresses would fit once a lost a few pounds, how certain dress styles would look good after my wedding diet (…that I’ve never once said I was doing!), how this dress covered up my arms and looked better than that dress that didn’t.
What was supposed to be a good day, turned into a day where I went home feeling like I’d been a victim of wedding body-shaming. How do other plus-size brides stay body positive in the face of constant criticism?
Open thread: Are you hiding or showing your scars on your wedding day?
Offbeat Bride has published numerous insightful and encouraging posts about “controversial” body markings such as tattoos, piercings, and out-there hairstyles — but what about scars? Especially those that have a story you DON’T want to tell, like scars from self-harming?
Body-positive bridal: What if I look stunning and I accept myself for who I really am?
You know how sometimes there’s nothing in the fridge, or in the closet, or on the radio? That’s how I felt like my own clothes weren’t fitting. The zipper zipped and the button buttoned, but the person in the mirror looked ill-fit, wrongly-dressed, confused, and fraudulent.
Maintenance-shaming: You don’t have to pretend you’re so cool that you’re “over” your own wedding
Upon hearing that I want my hair and makeup done, people say, “but you’re so low-maintenance.” So I have invented a term for what I’m going through: “maintenance-shaming.”
Maintenance-shaming is essentially telling a woman that she should not make a fuss about traditionally feminine things, or really that she shouldn’t make a fuss about anything.
I’m a fat bride
I want anything emblazoned with “bride” to be changed to “fat bride.” My identity as a fat woman is no secret, and I’m not ashamed of it. I bare my body with pride. However, not everyone feels the same way.